I need a book cover for a Christian book titled "Marriage is Worth Fighting For"
Marriage is supposed to be permanent. That was God's original intent, that two people who got married and stayed married for their entire lives. That is what God wants, and that's the way it's supposed to be. I know it's not for a variety of reasons, but that's God's intent. That's the perspective Scripture starts from. God sees marriage as a permanent thing.
My wife told me one time that she and some friends were out several years ago, several ladies who get together once in a while, and they were talking about their lives. All of them had been married 15 to 20 years or more at that time, and every lady was talking about how happy they were, how good their marriage was. They began to discuss it. "Why is it that our group of five or six are all still married and we're all happy?"
They began to talk about it, and they realized that everyone in the group had had significant difficulties in their past but had chosen to stay married and came out on the other side happier, more fulfilled. She told me this, because we've talked about our "seven years from hell." We've talked about that off and on, especially when we do marriage classes and talk with couples about to get married.
One of the things during that time that got us to the other side was that neither one of us was willing to consider divorce. That may be just because of our religious upbringing and we were just too scared to, but it just wasn't part of our thinking. It wasn't a viable option. Therefore, we fought through it with each other and through the whole thing. So today, 27 years later, while we sometimes fight in our marriage, we always fight for our marriage. And that’s the fight neither one of us is giving up on.
That's an attitude that's lost in our culture. We're in a culture with a 50-percent divorce rate, and there's not any difference among people who call themselves Christians and people who don't. Both have the same rate of divorce. Marriage today has become disposable. It’s time to change that. It’s time for Christians to see the marriage relationship the way God does, as something that's permanent and forever. It’s time for Christians to choose to fight for their marriages.
It is God’s intent for your marriage to get better and better and better, every year of your lives together. It is and always has been God’s intent for you to be able to look at your spouse today and feel such intense and passionate love for him or her that you would do it all over again in a heartbeat, no matter the cost.
That’s what God wants. That’s the kind of heart God is looking for. That’s the kind of marriage God wants to bless. That’s the kind of marriage that God wants to infuse with his power.